For a week plus now I've got a live-in maid. You'd think that should lessen up my stress over household matters, right? Wrong. Think again. I've gotten so stressed I don't even feel like staying in my own house anymore and sometimes I feel like just leaving my kid too.
Firstly, having just moved in, you'd understand my house is still a work in progress. Thus, other than essentials, I'm only slowly getting things for the house. A little background on this maid: she used to work for my mom in law but had to return to her home country Indonesia to redo her passport because they were cheated by an agent who promised to get her work permit done. My mom in law absolutely adores her but cannot live without a maid so took in her other previous maid who returned to Indonesia earlier but is asking to work again.
Under the employment of my mom in law, she had a tv, media player, dvd player and radio in her room. And my mom in law was bugging me to get these things for her to keep her happy while she does her job. I seriously don't give a damn if she doesn't like working for me and wants to leave, I don't even want a maid in the first place. And for me, she's got a bed, a wardrobe, a room which I generously enlarged thinking of her comfort, I'm not obliged to provide her those other luxuries when I haven't even gotten myself a dresser to put away my still-in-luggage-bags clothes!
But my mom in law kept asking and bugging me to get her those stuffs and asking whether we've got her room ready, whether we've got her wardrobe done, whether we've bought the maid a tv, oh we should get her a radio, oh we should subscribe Njoy (something like Astro) for her. OMG it's my freaking house what and when I want to get things done is my freaking problem! She's like a queen staying in MY house!
Another reason why I'm so stressed, being an OCD, I don't trust the work of others especially maids. True enough, she's only been here a week plus I already feel like washing down my entire house again it's crawling with ants! I lived for a month in the house with my nearly two toddler with barely enough time to clean and yet there weren't any colonies of ants around and here she comes and suddenly ants are everywhere! I told her to wipe the fans first thing when she came and it's still not done. More than once I noticed dishes that are not cleaned properly. My house is transformed into a 'rumah setinggan' with kain buruks hanging everywhere. And she used my expensive wipe cloth to become a kain buruk. Do you understand how extremely irritated I am?
So to make sure my house is clean I mop, wipe my tables counters cabinets etc, do the dishes and other things I could do myself. And yet I've got to pay her RM800 a month. Just short of a thousand! And I didn't even agree to it! My mom in law, without consulting us informed her we were paying her the said amount. When she told me and saw my incredulous response, her excuse was that she didn't want the maid to be enticed and work with other people. Again, I DON'T BLOODY CARE. I don't even want a maid in the FIRST PLACE!
So tell me, being a stay at home mom, is it worth it for me to pay RM800 a month to someone who barely have work to do because I do a lot of things myself and whose work is not even up to my standards? I even sort out the laundry, all she's gotta do is wake up in the morning load it into the washing machine and press those buttons! Is RM800 worth it????
Don't even get me to start on laundry. She ironed one of Dean's clothes and spoiled it and when I confronted her her answer was that it was like that it was because I handwashed the shirt and the printing got stuck. Like seriously? The shirt was brand new not even worn once. I didn't even wash it so rigorously. And since when water affects clothes printing? But just for the benefit of the doubt, I didn't blow up but the second time I washed it I checked whether water really affected the printing or if rubbing the printing does. Sure enough, it does not. Come on, I do housework for god's sake. I know what causes printing to stick onto each other, it's when they come into contact with heat! This time, I checked the short after she ironed it and there's no new damage though the shirt was already pretty damaged in my opinion. How come? Means she carefully ironed it this time right? *punch punch punch*
Dean has also become a difficult child since she came. She kept giving in to his whinings and now he acts like a spoiled brat all the time. I can't take it. I have no patience for spoiled brats. That's why I feel like leaving the house and Dean now. I'm that stressed. I was purposely strict with his upbringing because I wanted him to be able to be happy on his own. Now he keeps asking to be carried around, throws tantrums, asks for snacks though it's not his snack time, refuses to eat, refuses to bathe and refuses to sleep. And the worst part is, my husband wouldn't help so at the end of the day I got to deal with this unbecoming behaviour.
So yes, I'm extremely stressed right now.